Men are not as skilled as women in hiding their
tracks when it comes to cheating, they are mostly been found out by their wives
or been implicated by their greedy side chicks.
Women are used to playing the victims where as there
are more women cheaters out there, they appear to look mistreated and
vulnerable because women are very good actors, they can summon their emotions
so fast and communicate sympathy in you in a moment.
An average Nigerian man puts in a lot of work into
his marriage to make it work more than women, but the men will never admit it
because they don’t want to feel emasculated and ego-bruised. Nigerian men are
programmed to live under the culture of silence; some men had to endure some
unimaginable things from their wives in order to keep their marriages.
Men have been accused of being dogs and cheats by
women simply because they are not as skilled and intelligent as women in hiding
their tracks after a cheat, as well as women do, besides it is quite easier for
women to cheat than men, I mean how difficult is it for a woman to work to get
sex from a man?
There are number of reasons why a man would hardly
expose his wife’s promiscuity if he really loves his wife, the reasons are;
1. A
man would never want his wife to lose the regards and respect that people
around him already has for her, for you can joke with a man but never take the
joke closer to his wife because this is where his boundaries are drawn, because
a man’s wife is his pride.
2. Nigerian
men are terrified of divorce, they deny it all the time but they really are,
they are scared of divorce because they are the ones who invest a lot in their
marriages and wouldn’t want to lose all that to start over. Contrary to popular
beliefs men badly want to keep their homes, in Nigeria women file for divorce
more than men do.
3. To
men, a cheating wife might translate to them not performing well in bed or they
aren’t taking good care of their wives’ sexual
or financial needs, so it lands on his ego making men to question
themselves if they are really doing enough or being man enough to take care of
their families. Some women play the blame game and lode it over their husbands
of being responsible for their promiscuity, so because it is a man’s
responsibility to protect the integrity of his family, he tends to swallow the
matter.
4. And
for the sake of the children.
If a man doesn’t really love his wife who cheated on
him, he might divorce her quietly, that is why you will never understand the main
reason why some couples divorced, no one will hear about it.
On the other hand
a typical Nigerian woman has no problem letting the world know that her husband
cheated because it is not her responsibility to protect the integrity of her
marriage, she will generalize it to all men and label them with sorts of names,
then go ahead to divorce him. But if she actually decides to forgive, then she wants
to let the whole world to know that she forgave her husband and then be counted
as one of the wise virtuous woman who saved her marriage.
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